My valve cover was very oily, so I went to change the gasket. The auto parts store sold me a Fel-Pro VS50476R gasket set, which is the part number all the auto parts stores show for this year. The set included new "grommets" for the 3 bolts which hold down the cover. The new grommets are about 1/4" thick for the portion above the valve cover, while the old grommets were about 1/2" thick above the cover (see attached photo). I did not think much of this, just figured it was a new design.
When installing the cover back on, the bolts got hard to turn before they were seated. I thought it was due to trying to push the grommet through the cover, so I tried tightening a little more, and one of the bolts broke off in the cyclinder head! With these shorter grommets, the bolts are too long.
So I go to the Ford dealer to get new bolts and grommets. They tell me they are not sold separately, nor is the gasket. I have to buy the cover, gasket, grommets, and bolts all together to get a single piece, and it will cost $180!!

WTF!
I guess I can get some bolts from the junk yard, but now I'm not sure I'll get the right ones. Does anyone know the difference between these short and tall grommets and the bolts that go with them? Was I given the wrong parts at the store?
Other odd thing is that the my valve cover has a groove for aligning the gasket, and my cylinder head is smooth. The new Fel-Pro gasket has its alignment ridge on the cylinder head side, not the valve cover side. But it does have alignment tabs to hold it in place periodically on the cylinder head side. Again, I figured this was an updated design. But now I'm wondering if I got wrong parts.
I can extract the bolt out of the cylinder head, but want to put a new gasket on with the right parts. And I do not have $180 to spend on this. That is one of the most absurd things I have ever heard from an auto dealer. Is there anywhere to get these bolts besides the junk yard? What is going on with these different parts?
Any light anyone can shed on my problema would be greatly appreciated.