crazy96863 - you took my post way to personally, unless you are the CEO of Ford or something.
I got the verdict finally and the peice on top that attaches to the cable used to shift is broken and they are still covering it since they put it back in the van after the last rebuild. They did use Ford parts for the rebuild since it was under my extended warranty - that was apparently a requirement. I wasn't happy about it - believe me!
However all this being said - this transmission does have a design flaw and Ford should step up and correct it. I still don't think I will ever be able to put my faith in this company again after all this. Say what you will, but those splines will strip and you'll be walking one day with no warning at all. We'll see how you feel then.
Overall - I think the van compares to its foriegn competitors in Ride - Comfort - Looks - and passes them up in Saftey. However reliability is also important and is pretty decent in this van in my opinion. We haven't had much trouble besides tranny related. I see people complaining about gas mileage - but lets face it, this isn't a Geo Metro. If you wanted 35mpg you bought the wrong type of vehicle.
As for Honda / Toyota reliability I can't say as I have never owned one. I do know several people here I work with tell me Honda is bad for FWD tranny problems to and they are twice the price to replace! Ouch
I currently own a 1999 Saturn SL2 with 113,000 on it and it has never really had any problems besides an alternator last summer. I expected that out of the Freestar and have been dissappointed - but that is life. I also know the Freestar is a bigger, heavier, more complicated vehicle - so I guess some problems should be expected. We also traded in a 1993 Toyota Previa with 208,000 on it and the transmission was just then starting to slip.
When I compare the Ford to these two vehicles - it can't stand up to the competition.